When a person leaves our side forever, there is always a void left inside that will crave them forever.
I didn’t know that just on day 2, things would get so deep. I just came back from giving condolences to my doctor (I’ll call her Mam for ease), who lost her father a few days ago. I had been meeting Uncle for a long time. But when I visited her house today, it just felt empty. The absence really filled the room. My doctor’s mom (I’ll call her auntie for ease) was sitting on the sofa crying, and Mam too just couldn’t stop her tears from flowing.
I was there with my mom, and after talking for a while, Auntie started telling us about Uncle’s demise. Mam joined the conversation and was praising her father, remembering all the smallest moments that were flashing before her eyes. All the people around Auntie were expressing how difficult it would be for her to live in the house alone. But all I could see in Auntie’s eyes was love and pride for her husband.
All I could see in Mam’s eyes were memories. Both of them lost the most important person in their lives, yet they were so poised. Maybe they haven’t processed what happened till now, and later, when they will be left alone, this will hit them.
But as a spectator, all I could think about was how much people visiting and consoling would mean to them at this time.
For us, it was just some minutes of our day, but for them, it was a person who cared enough to lend a shoulder to cry on. I realized that when we shed tears in the sorrow of someone else, it gives us humility and brings us back to the fact that “Nothing is permanent.” People who are suffering can feel the love we actually have for them.
I had literally met uncle last week when I went to take my medicines, and today I visited to mourn his loss. This was such a harsh blow that it left me in tears. We take so many things for granted, especially the people around us who support us consistently, thinking one day we will spend time with them. What if that “one day” never comes? What if we are not here to witness that? What if they are not here to witness that?
Life is too short to miss out on spending time with our loved ones, whomever it maybe- family, friends, partners, relatives, etc. It is important to take every chance you get to create memories with them. “If you think the price of spending time with them is high, wait till you get the bill from regret!”
Until next time, Adios Amigo!
Read about My Perspective on Death HERE!
