Comparison is the thief of joy. Stop comparing yourself.
No matter how content I am with my life, something in someone else’s life will make me jealous. I sat down with my cousins a while back, and we were discussing our jobs. They have conventional 9-to-5 jobs, and I’m the odd one out. Being a blogger and freelancer doesn’t pay as much as I imagined, but at least I get to do what I love. I’m not mad about it all (mostly).
But just them talking about how they spend their money, how they invest their money, and how they are planning a trip with their salary made me furious. No matter how emotionally intelligent I think I’ve become, I still feel I’m not enough. I still base my self-worth on how well the other person is doing. It’s not that I’m not happy with their success, but I’m rather upset at my own level of success.
I have to tell myself repeatedly how lucky I actually am that I am able to do what I love. I might have to switch careers later, but at least I have a gift, and I am also lucky to be living it. Not everyone has this luxury, and I don’t want to stop being grateful for it just because I’m stuck comparing myself to everyone else.
If you are someone like me and you too are comparing yourself left and right, the bottom line for us is this: Someone will always be prettier than you, richer than you, smarter than you, and more privileged than you. To what extent do you think you can waste your time comparing?
Understand that ‘You Are Not Behind’. You are exactly where you need to be and you have everything you need right here right now. You need to remind yourself of this again and again until it is engraved in your mind. Stop comparing and start focusing on your blessings. It’s a bit petty but you can also remind yourself that you have a lot of things that someone else doesn’t!
We really need to get out of the scarcity mindset and believe with all our hearts that “there is enough abundance for everyone!” Are you with me?
Until next time, Adios amigo!
This jealousy goes long back and I had figured out this trait of mine a while back. You can read about it HERE!
