I draw the blinds
They don’t need to see me cry
‘Cause even if they understand
They don’t understand
Sabrina carpenter (Song: On my way)
My friend texted me yesterday. He sent a long paragraph which he wanted to post as a caption (coz he is an influencer on Instagram). It was pretty deep and conveyed a hidden message on how lonely he was in his life.
Little back story on him. He had a girlfriend long time ago. She Cheated on him, which left him devastated. Since then he has been through every bad phase there could be. He became a f*** boy, left doing anything he liked, lost trust in everyone, merely survived through college and till date posts sad shit on Instagram.
Hear me out, you might think I am ruthless, but I am just trying to be protective. I get it, you lost a person whom you gave your everything to, but is being sad all the time and not trusting anyone again worth it? The other person didn’t think twice before breaking your heart into a million pieces and you still end up ruining your life because of them. You surely deserve better than that!
I’ll be honest I’ve cried over a lot of guys. Back in the day I literally used to ask out every guy I had a crush on. I got rejected every f*cking time. But did I stop? No! I didn’t let them take control of my life. Did I cry my eyes out? Absolutely! Did I think I would be single forever, because every crush I confessed my feelings to, rejected me? Yes! But did I lose hope and think I don’t deserve love? No! never.
Giving the control of your life to someone who can’t even control themselves is not worth it. As far as my friend is concerned he is a workaholic. So at least he concentrated on himself and his talents and made his way through. But unfortunately he is still depressed, not intentionally but rude and not to criticize but isn’t thankful to people who are there for him.
Craving for that one person who does not want to talk and treating those who care for you like shit is hopeless. Until and unless you see and cherish the blessings in front of you how do you expect more blessings to come your way.
That is very true.
According to me, “Everything happens for a reason no matter what and focusing on the positive should be our goal.”
If he went through that stuff at least it helped him stay motivated (Check out my Sources of Motivation) towards his aim. In situations like this you should be grateful that God saved you from being with a person who is toxic. At least you don’t have to live your life with a lie. It all depends on you.
The moment you decide to change and take care of yourself the world changes automatically.
Your attitude is everything. I want to tell you something. I also had a crush on him and he also rejected me. But I didn’t lose hope and did find someone.
I did cry as usual but I also accepted the fact that there is nothing wrong with me.
I think, “God saves us from problems that we can’t see”. Self love is everything. When you think you are sufficient for yourself nothing can break you. This does not mean you develop an ego, but being confident and realising that you don’t need to be dependent on anyone else to live life is everything. Even if it means to go in front of the mirror and talk or look at that gorgeous face (heart eye emojis, I’m already flattered looking at you). Do it. Sometimes this is enough. Trust me.
Give yourself a flying kiss and admire yourself because you are all you need. Being positive will never mean you neglect the negatives. Hoping for the best and preparing for the worst should be the mentality for life.
Sometimes you just have to put yourself first. Making yourself a Priority is not bad. Sometimes can love someone and still let them go. You gotta put yourself first and take care of yourself. And that isn’t selfish.
Honestly I can go on with this… But I won’t. I know you’ve got a ton of things to do.
Incase anyone of you feel like you are alone, my dear friend I am here with you. I believe in you and I am sure you will survive. Don’t let the world hide your Shine or tell you otherwise. Coz I know you got it!!
Until next time, Adiós amigos.
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